This is my new motto. This is a saying on a mug that I gave Jonas for Christmas. I love the saying, despite it being so cliché, because it speaks to me. These two things go hand-in-hand. You can’t be at your creative best if your mind isn’t calm. Stress dampens creativity. Jonas finds his ability to create is limited by the amount of stress he may be under at any given time. Stress is anti-creativity.
How do I keep calm? That’s a many-part answer. Keeping calm starts with my environment. Jonas and I both work from home and so our home is sacred, especially as it’s our creative working environment. We keep things quiet and peaceful and that includes us. We have a great relationship, so that helps to keep things calm, but we work hard at that, too. No relationship is without its bumps, but one thing we endeavour to do is talk things out before they escalate into a fight. It’s been a journey to get to this place, but I’m grateful we worked so hard at it. It helps to keep our life non-toxic.
I do yoga and meditation. I practiced for years and then life got in the way for a time, but I’m working my way back to a daily practice. For me, this is the most calming thing. For you it might be something very different. The most important thing is to find your happy place. I have several. Between the pages of a good book, on my yoga mat, cuddling with Jonas and talking, reading together, to name a few. Find a happy place and go there as often as possible, especially when feeling stressed.
The next stressor is our relationships outside the home. I endeavour to keep my relationships positive and if they aren’t I think carefully about how I can change them and if they can’t be changed, I have to consider letting them go. This was a hard lesson for me to learn, but it has made a huge difference in my life. The great news is that now I have wonderful relationships in my life both with family and friends.
My job/career. That has been a source of a lot of unease until recently. I realize now that I have to be organized (outline!) and have clearly defined goals. When I was writing for myself and publishing independently, I didn’t have a lot of focus. Jonas was doing so well that my contributions or non-contributions didn’t make a lot of difference to the finances, so I let myself off the hook. Bad idea. If I don’t take my writing seriously, who will? I’ve made the necessary changes and it’s going better than ever before and I certainly have a lot more respect for myself.
I could go on and on, but you get the picture. What areas in your life are causing you stress and making it difficult to meet your goals? Do you have goals? Remember, what you’re experiencing in your life is because you chose it. That’s a hard pill to swallow, but I finally choked it down and started making some changes. Now I can take credit for the good things in my life, because I also chose them.